BDSM Basics: Top 5 BDSM Toys

HEREKey concepts that are absolutely essential for any kinkster to know. Most people interested in BDSM have at least a few toys, but which ones are the most important? This is a list of the top five most essential BDSM toys that any practitioner of the fetish lifestyle should own. It is also a great place to start for any beginner. 


Duct tape - This item is something you are already likely to have somewhere around your house so why not put it to some good use! Duct tape is the most versatile bondage item that you can buy. It can be used to tie any part of the human body to almost any other part of the human body. It can also be used as a basic gag. It is important to remember that the tape must be applied to the skin carefully in order to prevent over tightness and removed carefully unless you want lots of bruising. 

Lubricant - Lube is an absolutely necessary starting point for any form of anal, urethral, or vaginal insertion play. Without lube you risk causing severe damage to the body, particularly during anal play since the anus does not produce any natural lubrication. The are several types of lubricant made from different materials, find which one works best for you. My recommendation would be to choose one that is a water based formula such as Astroglide. My personal rule of thumb with lube is that you can never have enough or too much.

Medium Size Dildo - A dildo, made of a flexible material and modeled off an average penis size, is a great starting point for any form of insertion play. The flexible material will help the penis conform to the human body and the average size will allow the toy to be used in different holes. You can also find dildos in a variety of collars based on your preference. 

Wooden Cane - My fetish screen name is InvestigatorCane for a reason. A can made of wood is the absolute core of any impact play I engage in. More conversation on the glory of the cane can be found in other articles on Royal Kink. 

Nylon Rope - This toy is meant to be a companion item to the duct tape. Rope can be used to make more complex ties with a greater variety. I recommend that you learn some basic knots and always keep a pair of safety scissors nearby just is case. The nylon material will also be soft to the touch while being strong. 

For an in-depth discussion about alternative points of view on the top five BDSM toys, listen to the episode of the Royal Kink Podcast found HERE where we discus the topic at length.

Written by: InvestigatorCane